Pincushion Hill Montessori School
Holiday Gifts: What Do Children Need?
Alison Petersen • November 29, 2024

Many children have too many toys! What do we get them for the holidays?

Children want and need their parents' time and attention, but the toy industry seems to be pulling in the opposite direction. There are toys that are advertised for children to use alone in their rooms, or electronic devices where they turn to a device instead of other humans for happiness, or plastic toys that give the message that children are not worth the real thing or best quality...where is this heading?


The following text is adapted from publications by Michael Olaf Montessori Company, a company that focuses on high-quality items that families can use together or that teach about the reach world of plants, animals, humans and the beautiful world of art. As you'll see, thoughtfully setting the stage for each level of development is a wonderful gift we can give our children.


Preparing the Environment


Constant preparing and adaption of the environment to the ever changing needs and tendencies of growing children is essential in the Montessori method of raising and educating children. The first sondering is a physical safety, and then the proper support for free movement, exploration, making choices, concentrating, creating, completing cycles - all of which contribute to optimum development.


Birth to Age 3


When parents are getting ready for their first child, they will be overwhelmed by ads on what they "need" for their child. It seems that these ads are aimed at selling things far more than providing what is really good for the child. Not only are many items over stimulating for the young child (too many objects, uncomfortably bright colors), but they also hamper the natural development of important abilities such as language (pacifiers) and movement (cribs, swings, and high chairs) and even sometimes can be dangerous.


A simple, natural and gentle environment that encourages feelings of safety, and encourages the child to communicate with others and to move - that is the superior environment for the child from birth to age 3.


A child will develop more fully - mentally, emotionally and physically - when she is free to move and explore the environment. Attention must be paid to covering plugs, taping wires to walls or floor, and removing any objects that could harm the child.


During the first years the child will absorb, like a sponge, whatever is in the environment - ugliness or beauty, coarse behavior or gentleness, good or bad language. As parents we are the first models of what it means to be a human.


Quality and beauty of the environment with books and materials are very important in attracting, satisfying and keeping a child's attention. If the child is exposed to beautiful materials and books, as an adult he will create a world with the same high standards. Toys, rattles, puzzles, tables and chairs - made of wood - foster an appreciation for nature and quality.


Sometimes we forget that daily life was first carried outdoors. This is still the instinct of a child. Just a breath of fresh air, a look at the branches moving in the wind is mesmerizing to a child. Daily walks give children the opportunity to discover plants, cracks in the road, puddles and ants. These details often are overlooked by adults but are enchanting to a child. A walk is a journey filled with discovery.


Ages 3 - 6


Children ages 3 to 6 often prefer to work on the floor instead of a table using a mat or rug. This marks the workspace just as a table would.


Toys, books and materials can be attractively arranged on trays and in baskets, on natural wood or white shelves. Each object has a special, permanent place so that the child knows where to find it and where to put it away when finished. Tables and chairs that support proper posture are important for this age.


 Organizing a Child's Environment


  1. Participation in family life: Even though from the very first days, include the child in the life of the family. Have a place in each room for a few carefully chosen belongings. The living room should have a place for to neatly organize the child's books and toys.
  2. Independence: The child's message to us at any age is "Help me to do it myself." Supporting this need shows respect for and faith in the child. Think carefully about family activities in all areas of the home and arrange each space to support independence. Add a coat tree, low clothing rod, or hook wherever the child undresses or dresses. Use a stool or bench for removing shoes and boots, inviting shelves for books, dishes or toys.
  3. Belongings: Don't put our too many toys and books at one time. Those being used by the child at the moment are sufficient. It is a good idea to rotate and take out those books and toys that have been neglected.
  4. Sense of order: Everyone at every age is affected by their environment. A child who joins the environment, and learns to select a few things, will be aided in many ways, such as creating good work habits and concentration. Rather than tossing toys into a large toy box, it is more satisfying to the child to place them neatly on shelves, on wooden trays or in small baskets. This also makes putting things away more logical and enjoyable.
  5. Cultural emphasis: Make your home a reflection of your unique part of the world. Include music, books, foods, crafts, and stories from your parents and grandparents lives. Your child will learn that everyone is connected and he is a member of an international community.








By Alison Petersen February 11, 2025
This post is for the primary families (although the families of older students who read it will readily agree and support the points below – ask them when you have a chance!). Some of you were originally drawn to Montessori because you’ve read about how different and special the approach is. Some of you were looking for a high-quality daycare or preschool and stumbled upon us. There are a plethora of reasons families choose to send their children to Montessori schools. The vast majority of those families are thrilled with their decision once they see how their child is nurtured, encouraged, and celebrated in our environments. Something interesting tends to happen sometime around when the child approaches kindergarten and first grade. Families feel the pull of traditional schooling. They begin to worry that the differences that make Montessori so wonderful just won’t cut it when it comes to preparing their older child for life. They may have excellent public school options available to them. It can be hard to go against what you did as a child, or what your family or friends are doing for their children. And we fully recognize that the decision is incredibly personal. What we can tell you is that many families who choose to leave Montessori before their child enters kindergarten end up returning. We can also tell you the three-year cycles in our environments are intentional, and there are some great reasons to give your child the gift of that third year. Feeling on the fence? Hopefully we can help clarify some of the reasons we think kids do best when they have the opportunity to complete their primary cycle. Mastery of Skills The third year in a Children's House classroom is a chance for students to really shine academically. Everything they have been working on comes full circle and their understanding of concepts solidifies in a way it couldn’t have until now. Much of what we teach in the earlier years of our primary environments is indirect and direct preparation for the lessons our third years receive and the materials they work with. Not only are our kindergarten children understanding concepts in new ways, but they can actually demonstrate this knowledge. Educators from all backgrounds will agree that when a person is able to teach someone a skill, they have themselves demonstrated mastery of the skill. Our classrooms are designed so that older students help to teach younger ones. This teaching serves multiple purposes, one of which is to demonstrate their own understanding. One of the many benefits of the multi-age classroom, our kindergarteners really enjoy taking on the role of giving lessons to their younger peers. Opportunities for Leadership Teaching lessons to younger children isn’t just about academic mastery; it’s also a chance for kids to experience leadership. We believe that solid leadership isn’t really about power. It’s about allowing those with experience to take on a role of guiding others with less experience. So much of this type of leadership is done by modeling, and our kindergartners serve as the very best models for our younger students. When your child first entered the classroom, they went through a period in which they needed to figure out expectations, routines, and so much more. Children need to learn how to be independent, how to interact with one another and adults, how to care for the environment, and so on. As adults who guide the children, we model and verbalize what children need to learn, but we are wise enough to recognize that they learn more from watching their peers. Older children relish in this opportunity. It feels good to know that you are helping someone else. It feels good to acknowledge how far you have come, and how you are now able to guide others along their own path. Our third years know about this role because we discuss it with them often. By the time they step into it, they are more than prepared. Continued Respect for Individuality You already know that Montessori schools respect each child’s individual path, and that we believe even young people deserve to be treated with dignity. There are many ways in which we differ from conventional institutions, but some that we think are important to highlight are: Allowing the child to use the restroom when they need to, without having to ask permission from an adult Encouraging children to eat a snack when they are hungry and drink when they feel thirsty Creating a structure that allows children to take breaks when they need to, and to focus deeply on their work for long periods of time without being interrupted Giving children academic choice within limits (they may be required to complete certain tasks, but it’s okay if they choose the order in which the tasks are done) Creating flexible seating choices so that children have options to sit alone or with friends, in a chair or on the floor Advanced Academic Expectations Parents in our community often recognize that our curriculum tends to exceed the scope of what is taught elsewhere. We do not push children to learn what is beyond their capabilities, we just know that children are capable of more than most people realize. When given the opportunity, they can amaze us all. We honor the fact that every single child develops at their own rate, and there is no set time for various skills to be mastered. It is not uncommon, however, for Montessori students to: Be reading before they enter kindergarten Be working with numbers into the thousands at age four Have an understanding of basic grammatical principles at age five Engage with basic geometry concepts not typically introduced until years later Enjoy skills and content taught in the areas of biology and geography beginning at age three Learn cursive handwriting before entering elementary school Begin adding large numbers and have a basic understanding of exchanging for tens Deep-Dives Into Areas of Personal Interest One of the best parts of being in a Montessori classroom is being allowed the time to explore one’s own interests. Because of the flexible nature of the day, kids can practice various skills while learning about what creates a spark for them. Are they into dinosaurs? We provide books, paper, and art supplies for them to write about and draw diagrams of these ancient creatures. Are they proud of their family’s culture and heritage? We make space for children and families to give presentations and share their traditions. Do they dream about being a vet as an adult? Older children may be given more responsibilities to care for class pets, and they often find creative ways to connect the zoology curriculum to the animals they know and love in real life. In a Montessori classroom, the possibilities really are endless. The experience is unlike anything that can be found in other educational settings, and each year we can give our children a Montessori education is a gift. Still have questions? Please don’t hesitate to reach out and let us know how we can support you and your child.
By Alison Petersen February 7, 2025
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